Sunday 27 June 2021

Be a 'Star Actor' in Reel & Real Life

If you are convinced that we all are actors and the life is a drama after reading my previous post  Be an 'Actor' of 'Emotions', here is the sequel to it…

If we observe the role & emotional clarity of the star actors, we find several life secrets to learn. Though the star actors act in different roles in different situations & scenes in different movies, they never bring the interference among the roles or emotions. Suppose a star actor has to act in a comedy scene in a movie1 shoot, then in a romantic scene in a movie2 shoot, from there he goes to a movie3 shoot in which he has to play the character of a son whose mother has died- a very sad scene, in movie4 shoot he has to play a college going student role, in movie5 he has to play a role of a thief presented in the court of law – court scene. By the evening or night, he has to go home & play his real roles as a husband, son, father etc. But it is so wonderful that he never carries an emotion of one particular scene to the another. So, there won’t be any interference of the previous scene on the present scene. Otherwise, the performance gets affected. This is what we should learn from the star actors. High level of Emotional Intelligence can be achieved with the realization that we are all actors and the world is a stage.

The other important aspect here is- the star actors never interfere with the roles of the junior artistes. They may become the mentors for the junior actors. But they never spoon-feed the juniors. Always they encourage the uniqueness of each & every actor. The Role Clarity is the important aspect we should learn from this. Most of the star actors focus on their roles and continually improving themselves. They normally give suggestions to the junior actors as mentors only without ego. We have already seen how lack of ego helps in building the relations The Relations are Precious - Happy Father’s Day.  We have never seen a movie/drama in which all the roles are played by a single actor except in monologue. The movie/drama becomes a success when all the actors do their best. The unity in diversity is the key there. It applies to the cross-functional team management also. The director is the person who understands the script requirements and chooses the actors as per their unique capabilities & skills and ensures that those skills are blended well into the effective story telling. It is the same in case of a Team Manager. The real big Writer & Director is the GOD. All the others are like assistant directors for a particular scene or episode. Star actors politely present their views or suggestions to make some corrections in the script. But they never blame the director. Most of the times they don’t interfere in those areas. They always focus on their roles and try to continually improve their performance.

Again, all these learnings are applicable to all of us to perform better in our roles such as husband, father, son, mother, mother-in-law, daughter-in-law, teacher-student, boss-subordinate, peers & in any relationship.

Having the role clarity & emotional intelligence without interference is the key for becoming a Star Actor.

Be a Star Actor to win the hearts of people around you…

Be a Star in both Reel & Real life also...

Sunday 20 June 2021

The Relations are Precious - Happy Father’s Day

Most of the countries in the world celebrate Father’s Day on third Sunday of June. Though it is not there in the Indian tradition, still the concept is taken to celebrate with the children. They give the gifts to the father as a token of love & affection. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Father's_Day ) 

As we have already discussed in the previous blogs that all these days are celebrated to reinforce / strengthen a particular concept or relation.

People correlate many things to “Father” such as:  

God – Father of the World

Scientist/Inventors – Father of a particular science or theory

Priest in the churches – Father

Boss- Fatherly nature

Some people say my dad is like my brother, my friend etc. Some say he is the hero of their lives… Some say he is the villain… why is it so? It all depends on how we maintain the relations.

He is the Head of the family. So, he has

·       to think about the family and take decisions

·       to look after the family and welfare.

·       to take feedback & control

We say- face is the index of mind. Normally the face is seen by ourselves in the mirror. Some people use it for self-analysis & correction. But for some people, the mirror develops the ego. The moment, the ego comes into any relation, there are fair chances that the bonding in the relationship starts reducing.

The relationship without ego is like the plain glass through which we can see the image of the people around us clearly as they are. We can recognize and appreciate as they are. The moment the ego which is like the reflecting material coat on the glass slowly makes it a mirror through which we will try to see ourselves in others. That’s why we hear many times fathers saying he is seeing himself in his kid. Till that point it is OK. But strongly imposing our ideas and thoughts on to the kids and trying to make them as we are or better than us is mostly the father’s thinking. But unfortunately, it is not because of the pure love & affection. The pure love & affection comes when we are able to identify the people around as they are. We should recognize & appreciate other’s unique capabilities clearing the coating of the Ego… Then we will be so much transparent in our relationship. This is another perspective of looking at Transparency in the Relationships… That is removing the ego, recognizing and appreciating the other’s talents.

Just imagine what will you see if you use the mirror to see what the child is doing. Obviously, you can’t see the him/her. You are just trying to find yourself by using the mirror ego. Please remove the reflective coat (ego). So, our mind should be like a pure glass which can pass the light to see the true reflection of the others. There should not be any coat of ego which is a barrier for the relationship.

This concept can be applied in any relationship such as Father-Son, Mother-Daughter, Husband-Wife, Mother in law – Daughter in law, Boss-Subordinate, Teacher-Student, Elders-Youngsters.

So, remove the ego to make a clear & transparent bonding in any relationship. The relations are precious like glasses. So take at most care to preserve them from breaking.

One more aspect I want to discuss here is, the role of a father is to make the son grow and stand on his own and face all the challenges. It is the responsibility of the father to bring up the child as a responsible citizen. Feel the Responsibility to Fulfill the Responsibility.

Saturday 5 June 2021

Turn Inwards & Outwards - Rethink & Restore the Ecosystems – Happy World Environment Day

As we are always very busy in degrading the Environment and deforming the ecological systems, for making us to take a pause and rethink and start contributing towards our Environment, every year World Environment Day is celebrated on 5th June. This is a factual satire from my personal perspective. But actually, it is a great initiative of UN to spread the awareness on Environment Protection. This year, the theme is “Ecosystem Restoration”.

Please go through my previous posts related to the Environment (click on the following) … 

Happy Earth Day

Save the Environment & Biodiversity from the “Inhumanity in Humanity”

Happy "World Environment Day"

"Protect the Ozone Layer" to "Get Protected"

Inclusive Growth of Agriculture and Biodiversity with Industrialization

Environment & Sustainability

Wishing Happy, Safe, Healthy & Eco-friendly New Year…

It is always said, “Think before you act”. There are two options to think… Thinking inwards - Thinking about ourselves. Thinking outwards – Thinking about others. “How I get benefit out of something?” or “how others can benefit us?”. I am not talking about these things… These come under selfish thinking. We won’t achieve anything out of these. During the pandemic, we must have heard several times about thinking inwards to understand who we really are… This awareness is self-actualization the highest of the Maslow’s hierarchy. https://researchsubbu.blogspot.com/2021/05/interoception-introspection-happy.html

As per me, turning inward with a selfish goal won’t give any results… Understanding the nature/environment in the holistic spectrum and then shifting the focus to the self is the proper way of achieving the self-actualization as we are the part of the world and we are interdependent on the Environment. The moment the child comes out of the mother’s womb, he/she gets placed in the Nature’s lap… It takes care of that kid by giving proper Oxygen, maintaining suitable temperature, so many other things which help him/her to live throughout his/her life. So, from birth to death, we are dependent on the Nature. Nature also depends on us as we are the people who can take care of it or destroy it. But Nature has its own self adjusting mechanism to find the ecological balance. It is beyond Human Intelligence. We always talk about Biodiversity… Just see how fast the God is to create so many variants of Corona Virus… Still, the human-beings are also fighting against it for the survival. Finally, it is the Survival of the fittest… This is the law of nature and that’s how ecological balance is maintained… But, human race, over a period for so many years, has become very selfish and was fiddling with the ecological balance and spoiling the biodiversity with full of selfishness for the comforts… Deforestation, use of fossil fuels, pollution etc. Earlier in good olden days, we used to depend on the Nature for the survival. But now it has become a greed to get all the comforts at the cost of Nature’s degradation. One more surprising thing you must have observed is, during this pandemic attack of the Environment, the human race is opting for the natural remedies… Most of the people started understanding the importance of Ayurveda which is a pure natural medical science… Just observe the composition of an ayurvedic medicine consists of extracts from several plants. Thus, to take care of ourselves we need to take care of at least those plants… We are dependent on cattle for milk products… This is how the tradition, Culture and Nature are integrated. All the people in the world must have understood the importance of Oxygen for our lives in this pandemic. Seeing from the positive perspective, this pandemic has given huge opportunities of innovation and invention… Similarly, the environmental degradation also gives an opportunity for us to rethink and do something better to restore the ecosystems.

So, let us turn inwards & outwards with the Bird’s Eye View (https://researchsubbu.blogspot.com/2015/10/birds-eye-view.html) to understand the interdependency of Self & the Environment and contribute towards Ecosystem Restoration. Whether it is a business or life, we need to understand both the internal & external environment and the intra and inter dependencies and act accordingly… Thus, again our focus should be like the lenses of the mobile phone. One lens is used for taking the selfie (Looking inward) & the other is for the rest of the world (looking outward). Finally, the mobile is in our hands only… Use it properly…